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Quotes About Borderline Personality Disorder
“I'm so good at beginnings, but in the end I always seem to destroy everything, including myself.”
“You survived by seizing every tiny drop of love you could find
anywhere, and milking it, relishing it, for all it was worth. And as you
grew up, you sought love, anywhere you could find it, whether it was a
teacher or a coach or a friend or a friend's parents. You sought those
tiny droplets of love, basking in them when you found them. They
sustained you. For all these years, you've lived under the illusion that
somehow, you made it because you were tough enough to overpower the
abuse, the hatred, the hard knocks of life. But really you made it
because love is so powerful that tiny little doses of it are enough to
overcome the pain of the worst things life can dish out. Toughness was a
faulty coping mechanism you devised to get by. But, in reality, it has
been your ability to never give up, to keep seeking love, and your
resourcefulness to make that love last long enough to sustain you. That
is what has gotten you by.”
“People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90%
of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the
slightest touch or movement.”
“They love without measure those whom they will soon hate without reason.”
“The Queen is controlling, the Witch is sadistic, the Hermit is fearful, and the Waif is helpless.
And each requires a different approach. Don't let the Queen get the upper hand; be wary even of accepting gifts because it engenders expectations. Don't internalize the Hermit's fears or become limited by them. Don't allow yourself to be alone with the Witch; maintain distance for your own emotional and physical safety. And with the Waif, don't get pulled into her crises and sense of victimization. Pay attention to your own tendencies to want to rescue her, which just feeds the dynamic.”
And each requires a different approach. Don't let the Queen get the upper hand; be wary even of accepting gifts because it engenders expectations. Don't internalize the Hermit's fears or become limited by them. Don't allow yourself to be alone with the Witch; maintain distance for your own emotional and physical safety. And with the Waif, don't get pulled into her crises and sense of victimization. Pay attention to your own tendencies to want to rescue her, which just feeds the dynamic.”
“The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline.”
“A crucial element of the real self is its unconditional acceptance of itself.”
“To stave off the panic associated with the absence of a primary
object, borderline patients frequently will impulsively engage in
behaviors that numb the panic and establish contact with and control
over some new object.”
“Cincinatti was where I learned that running away from your
problems has a three-month statute of limitations, a lesson I have found
repeatedly to be true. Three months is still a first impression -- of a
city, of other people, of yourself in that place. But there comes a
point when you can no longer hide who you are, and the reactions of
others become all too familiar...”
“The theologian Paul Tillich wrote that "loneliness can be
conquered only by those who can bear solitude." Because the borderline
finds solitude so difficult to tolerate, she is trapped in a relentless
metaphysical loneliness from which the the only relief comes from of the
physical presence of others. So she will often rush to singles bars or
with crowded haunts, often with disappointing--or even
violent--results.”
“The biographies of the great men see their excesses as signs of
their greatness. But Jean Rhys, in her biography, is read as borderline;
Anaïs Nin is borderline; Djuna is borderline; etc. etc. Borderline
personality disorder being an overwhelmingly gendered diagnosis. I write
in Heroines: “The charges of borderline personality disorder are the
same charges against girls writing literature, I realize—too emotional,
too impulsive, no boundaries.”
“The borderline Queen experiences what therapists call "oral
greediness". The desperate hunger of the borderline Queen is akin to the
behavior of an infant who had gone too long between feelings. Starved,
frustrated, and beyond the ability to calm of soothe herself, she grabs,
flails, and wails until at last the nipple is planted securely and
perhaps too deeply in her mouth. She coughs, gags, chokes, and spits,
eyeing the elusive breast like a wolf guarding her food. Similarity, the
Queen holds on to what is hers, taking more than she could use, in case
it might be taken away prematurely.”
“Conviction rates in the military are pathetic, with most
offenders going free AND THERE IS NO RECOURSE FOR APPEAL! The military
believes the Emperor has his clothes on, even when they are down around
his ankles and he is coming in the woman's window with a knife! Military
juries give low sentences or clear offender's altogether. Women can be
heard to say “it's not just me” over and over. Men may get an Article
15, which is just a slap on the wrist, and doesn't even follow them in
their career. This is hardly a deterrent. The perpetrator frequently
stays in place to continue to intimidate their female victims, who are
then treated like mental cases, who need to be discharged. Women find
the tables turned, letters in their files, trumped up Women find the
tables turned, letters in their files, trumped up charges; isolation and
transfer are common, as are court ordered psychiatric referrals that
label the women as lying or incompatible with military service because
they are “Borderline Personality Disorders” or mentally unbalanced. I
attended many of these women, after they were discharged, or were wives
of abusers, from xxx Air Force Base, when I was a psychotherapist
working in the private sector. That was always their diagnosis, yet
retesting tended to show something different after stabilization, like
PTSD.”
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